02-27-2014

Comparing Yourself To Others

How often to do we compare ourselves to those around us, or even those we see online through social media and blogs?

Recently, I’ve been guilty of doing just that.

Sometimes you see someone else posting about their accomplishments and you start doubting yourself. Should you be at that point too? Are you behind in your “self-development?”

Whether it’s comparing ourselves to other athletes, other bloggers, other people in general…I know I’m not the only one who does it!

For me, I know I have taken a chance in starting my own business, and I know that for now I won’t have the same abilities as some of my friends (like going on vacation, spending at the mall, etc.), but sometimes I can’t help but feel like I am behind in “life.” Should I be taking this risk? Or at 25 years old should I be in a full-time job, saving money like other people? I don’t have an answer.

What I do know is that when I start thinking that, I also think about how I can’t imagine giving up on my passion and dream just yet. I gave myself a year to work it out, and we will see what happens once I’m back from my trip to Paraguay this summer. I love what I do, and although it has been challenging, I want to continue it.

And that thought process can go with anything. Do you sometimes feel really slow looking at other, faster runners? (I certainly do). Re-evaluate when you have doubts, and think about what brought you to that passion in the first place. If you love running, and want to continue to improve, then you will keep running despite feeling slower than others. If anything, those faster runners will be your motivation. At least that’s how I view it with running, and with my life thoughts going on right now.

Yes, sometimes I wish I had more money. I wish I could do certain things others can. I wish I could pay off my student loans! But then I remind myself that in time, those things will happen. Others may be experiencing life events right now, but that doesn’t mean I have to be as well. There is no timeline for when things should happen. Plus, sometimes what we see on blogs and social media isn’t the whole story.

A good thing to remember.

Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? What do you have doubts about?

Do you have your own business? Please feel free to share some tips with me – I’d appreciate it! :)

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09-23-2013

Motivational Monday!

I had a great weekend, and will be writing a race recap of the Fifth Avenue Mile for tomorrow (though if you follow me on Instagram you saw all my pics). Now it’s time for a big week of training…This is supposed to be the second highest mileage in 1 week that I will hit in this training round. Ahhhhh!! I hope everything goes smoothly, especially because my shin has been acting up…

Anyway, I found this quote and can really relate to this right now, especially as a lot of people I follow are also in the midst of marathon training:

How many times have you compared yourself to someone else? Whether it’s lifting, running, cycling…whatever. I do it all the time. I read about runners hitting their long run races in 8-9 minute miles and know I am still way far off from that. Sometimes it gets to me, and I get negative…but then…(going along with my recent How I Met Your Mother Addiction)

I remember the awesome things that I have accomplished. Sure, I may not be the fastest runner in the world (but I’m working on it and hope to get there eventually, cough BQ cough)…but I am training for a marathon. My body is running day in and day out to run a 26.2 race.

I know a lot of other runners who have been caught in the comparison trap…and we all need to stop! We are all doing amazing things. We get up to run, we run late, we miss things because we need to run the next day…it doesn’t matter how fast or how far you can run, you are getting out there.

Same thing can apply to anything. When I was lifting regularly, I was frustrated that I couldn’t bench as heavy as other people, or squat as heavy as other people…but again, I was in the gym…my body was lifting more than it ever has, and I should be happy with that.

One of my friends recently pointed out that we should stop saying, “Oh, I only did ______”. For example, “Hey how long did you run today?” “Oh, just 4 miles.” She said, stop saying “just!” you RAN. That’s what matters. (Thanks for this Alicia, if you’re reading).

So this week, I encourage you all to stop comparing yourself. When you catch yourself, think of the above Barney Stinson quote ;) Seriously though, just think of how awesome you are!

Do you compare yourself to others?

How do you remind yourself that you’re awesome? Leave me some tips!

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