Comparing Yourself To Others

How often to do we compare ourselves to those around us, or even those we see online through social media and blogs?

Recently, I’ve been guilty of doing just that.

Sometimes you see someone else posting about their accomplishments and you start doubting yourself. Should you be at that point too? Are you behind in your “self-development?”

Whether it’s comparing ourselves to other athletes, other bloggers, other people in general…I know I’m not the only one who does it!

For me, I know I have taken a chance in starting my own business, and I know that for now I won’t have the same abilities as some of my friends (like going on vacation, spending at the mall, etc.), but sometimes I can’t help but feel like I am behind in “life.” Should I be taking this risk? Or at 25 years old should I be in a full-time job, saving money like other people? I don’t have an answer.

What I do know is that when I start thinking that, I also think about how I can’t imagine giving up on my passion and dream just yet. I gave myself a year to work it out, and we will see what happens once I’m back from my trip to Paraguay this summer. I love what I do, and although it has been challenging, I want to continue it.

And that thought process can go with anything. Do you sometimes feel really slow looking at other, faster runners? (I certainly do). Re-evaluate when you have doubts, and think about what brought you to that passion in the first place. If you love running, and want to continue to improve, then you will keep running despite feeling slower than others. If anything, those faster runners will be your motivation. At least that’s how I view it with running, and with my life thoughts going on right now.

Yes, sometimes I wish I had more money. I wish I could do certain things others can. I wish I could pay off my student loans! But then I remind myself that in time, those things will happen. Others may be experiencing life events right now, but that doesn’t mean I have to be as well. There is no timeline for when things should happen. Plus, sometimes what we see on blogs and social media isn’t the whole story.

A good thing to remember.

Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? What do you have doubts about?

Do you have your own business? Please feel free to share some tips with me – I’d appreciate it! :)

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  1. I am CONSTANTLY comparing myself to others, on every possible subject. Am I waiting too long to have kids? I should have gone back to school earlier. I wish I could afford to move. How is someone the same age as me already a manager? Blah blah blah. Two sayings I repeat to myself over and over when I start thinking this: 1. Comparison is the thief of joy. 2. Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.

    I think comparison is a natural thing. It keeps us slightly competitive, makes us want to achieve more. But when we do it too much and give ourselves too hard of a time, then it’s destructive and keeps us from moving forward. Easier said than done as I struggle with this, too. :-)

    • Yes you are so right! I try to tell myself those things too. For me what triggered it was I saw someone talking about buying a house and stuff, and I’m like crap…I’m sooooooooo far from that. and it kind of makes you feel like a failure you know? But you’re right. I”m on a totally different path, and need to focus on myself and moving forward.

  2. Yep, this is my downfall. When I was running I constantly compared myself to the very fastest runners in my group and felt bad about what I was accomplishing, even though I was doing better than I’d ever done before. Now that I’ve been injured and am not racing I notice runners who run slower than I did who are thrilled about their accomplishments. I’m sure those runners existed before, I just never paid attention to them. Comparing myself really skewed my perception of reality.

    • I totally agree! Sometimes I get down on myself because of my pace during runs, but then see other runners who are slower than me but really excited and it reminds me that your only competition is yourself!

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